Okay, I'm taking a risk here, of censure from many quarters.
First of all, I am a clerical member (deacon) of the Holy Orthodox Church in North America: HOCNA. The reason I am in HOCNA is that thus far, my bishops (Ephraim of Boston, Macarios of Toronto, Moses of Seattle, and Sergius of... someplace in CA, I can't remember where) confess the Orthodox Faith. Our stance is to have absolutely no communion with ecumenist bodies (clerical and lay members) in prayer, services, or in Communion of the Mysteries. Beyond that, we make no statements about which of the ecumenist "Orthodox" bodies have grace or not.
My parish is quite "normal," one would say. As members "one of another," we've been through a lot, have seen all of each other's "dirty laundry," so to speak -- the family tragedies, the personal imperfections, the fights over the flower arrangements at Pascha, etc. We have very FEW people who "look Orthodox" (i.e., wear prayer ropes on their belts, quote the Philokalia, etc... you know what I mean... sorry for being harsh). My kids are in rock bands; I'd never buy the CD's, believe me, but I respect and joy in what they do, because it's creative and cool.
As an Orthodox Christian, I DO believe that doctrine, and purity of doctrine as received from Christ and the Apostles, matters very much; matters the most.
As a deacon, I have been more than privy to the documents and arguments surrounding our (and I mean ALL of OUR) jurisdictional divisions. And I -- though I believe I possess a reasonable degree of intelligence -- still can't figure it out.
For instance, I read all the documentation surrounding Fr. Victor Melnehov's departure from HOCNA to ROAC. It made sense to me, why he did that. I of course read all of our stuff (HOCNA) about how bad a decision that was. Read in that light, it made sense, too.
I recently read a horrificaly long account, in very bad English (like, 72 pages!), of how the "Kallinikos Synod" and the "Kiousis Synod" came to be separated from each other. It all made sense... sort of. I'm sure the "Kiousis Synod" could come up with equivalent documents, and they would make sense, too... sort of.
I've read stuff (again, usually extremely boring and poorly written)about why the original Auxentian Synod split.
From my viewpoint, if one really wanted to get to the bottom of the OC squabbles in Greece, one would have to have a doctoral dissertation. I actually started reading all the Councils, in the Eerdman's series, to see if I could get a better grasp of the subject. Anybody on this list think that will help me?
The sad thing is, when bishops makes decisions -- I'm talking about ALL of OUR bishops -- they can go back home, to their monasteries, and rest secure in the fact that they are right, and perhaps the only ones right. We, on the other hand, in the world, have to contend with fractured families, fractured friendships, limited marital options for our children, smaller and smaller parishes, and almost a total lack of ability to evangelize effectively.
Most of what I've read regarding the jurisdictional differences among the OC seems to center around conflicts in lifestyle/piety, personal attacks directed against people who have made human mistakes, panic at the thought of losing control, and so forth.
I have a fantasy, sometimes, that all of us will get together and COLLECTIVELY "coup" our bishops, like: we're ALL going to do readers' services until you guys get it together. But the world, and maybe even God (I'm not high in the spiritual discernment area), doesn't work like that.
I don't know how to end this, except to say, that I respect you all. I know what turmoil must go on in your minds regarding our differences. I know, very personally, how that can interfere with the joy of living a life in Christ. Many of you I would gladly worship with, if my bishops permitted it.
Let's take heart together. The Church must prevail, sound in doctrine, sound in love. I don't know how it will happen, but if I didn't believe it, I wouldn't be Orthodox. Let's find some joy in our Christian life.
I wish you all Godspeed, and the best,
Fr. Deacon Eugene