We're all with you at this time, Prav.
If you come back here and feel like writing any more about the friend, please think about jotting down an anecdote or further qualities of John. What you said so far was uplifting and edifying. So much that I couldn't feel sorrow, as the man sounded very blessed, had lived a wonderful life, hence must be in a good place or headed there. It IS curative, however, to talk about the person if or whenever you feel like recounting any particular memories. We can benefit thus too.
To think that I was chirping away about a book review last night when this major event must have been weighing on your mind, sorry!
Another side of this is that your friend's Church story points up the problems facing the True Orthodox jurisdictions. They are not muscly enough, YET, to get their word out, being vulnerable to attacks from many angles, as we well know, including Russian agents in the TOC fold occasionally trying to trip them up.
So I recommend a concerted P.R. campaign be launched, wherever possible, to notify the probably MANY fence-sitters who would much prefer a TOC than have to suffer through an OCA Liturgy, but especially those elderly or unconnected in with TOC news, may never hear of the existence of a parish fairly near. [In fact, some hide deliberately.]
I am thinking of a woman from an old established ROCOR family of emigres who burst out one day revealingly: "NO ONE WAS FOR THE UNION!"
But as she attends ROCOR-MP, she clammed right up when pressed on this point. A good insight as to how tight the unspoken censorship is among ROCOR-MP circles.
If her outburst is remotely accurate, TOC parishes, if they could present a credible, organized, face to the world, stand to gain a number of parishioners.
It's getting the word out that I suspect is a problem, identified by Prav's story above. I for one don't begrudge him any prayers, as it was not his fault that he remained with ROCOR when the merger took place.
Finally, this is a great forum. I hadn't realized what Prayer Life meant, I thought it was discussions on how to pray.
We should make more use of this opportunity provided to make prayer requests.
Especially at such poignant times when even simple words from supportive people can boost our spirits immeasurably.