Orthodox6 wrote:Ania,
You misunderstood me completely. I was referring to women who claim that pregnancy and motherhood will CAUSE mental health problems -- such as unbearable stress -- and use that excuse to abort the babies. I was not referring to women with existing mental health troubles.
At first, your comment about giving away the children of mothers with mental health problems angered me extremely. I cannot express how angry you made me. No one with even a minimal understanding of mental health issues could make so stupid (there is no other word) a remark. (Well, there are others, but I refrain from using them.) You have reminded me of how abysmally inadequate the general public's understanding of, and sensitivity to, mental illness continues to be.
Your friend's loss is very sad. I hope you were there to support her throughout the grieving period. Nonetheless, the account bears no relationship either to what I wrote, or to what you wrote in your preceding paragraph.
Ortho6, I'm sorry if I offended you. God forbid that a child be taken away from a mother who will care for it & love it. Never that. I'm sorry that you interpreted it like that, and as I read back to what I wrote, I can definately see how you read it. After I finish this post, I'll go back & change it, I can only say that yesterday was a busy day at work and I didn't read over what I wrote, like I usually do. So Sorry, it must have sounded extremely insensitive & cruel. I know many people who suffer from depression, bi-polar, etc. that are extremely loving great parents. I meant if they are using it as an excuse of, "well, I just can't handle it right now, give me another Clanasipan" Yes, I do know somebody who's had 3 abortions in the last year because she "can't handle it right now, she's too depressed." That's who I was thinking of when I wrote that.