Paradosis,
Anyone who is scandalized by the disorganization of Orthodoxy is likely not familiar with Church history, or has some means of keeping history in a box as if something has or should change. A clean, neat, organized Church is a utopia which never existed, ever.
How many of these people know that St. Ignatius signed the deposition papers of St. Photius with the Lords Blood from the Holy Chalice!!? What a fanatic "extreme ecclesiological" person he was, and a Saint DESPITE this. And St. Photius, he anthematized the entire Western Church because of the Filioque, again, what fanatic "extreme ecclesiology"; three little words and hundreds of thousands of people were cut off from the Church - and he is a Saint, largley BECAUSE of this.
My answer to anyone who is troubled by the disorganization of Orthodoxy, is that Orthodoxy, in the world, has never been anything but disorganized; Jesus Christ is the Head of the Church, that is not some abstract idea. And in the time of Jesus' life on Earth, He did not have a neat and clean organizational structure, in fact, of His own hand picked disciples, He was betrayed to death, denied, questioned, and they often argued right in front of Him! Our concern is to not primarily create earthly order, we are mainly concerned with being organized according to the Truth, because we are striving for heavenly order.
You said people are to often today ready to level an anathema without any remorse. Very true! Me before anyone else. It is also important to talk openly about spiritual realities.