Lydia wrote:A spiritual Father may (or may not) impose an epitimia on individuals whose marriage is failing. It all depends on the spiritual condition of the individuals.
Of course divorce is a grave matter. I never intended to suggest it wasn't. But to say that The Church permits divorce is simply true.
This is in contrast to the Catholic Church, which does not permit divorce, period.
I'm sure, as an ex-Catholic, you know at least one woman who, despite an intolerable married life, could not remedy the spiritually damaging situation except through annulment. This left her and her children in a very unpleasant place.
The Orthodox Church recognizes the fallen state and weakness of human beings and applies suitable remedies.
Exactly, the Orthodox Church recognizes the reality of a broken marriage. However, it merely tolerates divorce because of our brokenness. Thus, to say that the Orthodox Church permits divorces is not quite correct. Those who are divorced, unless they are innocent victims, are penanced.
I also know several Catholics who applied for an annulment, and I know a priest who served on the Catholic Marriage Tribunal. Catholics who are applying for an annulment are required to obtain a divorce first. A Catholic who is being threatened by her ex-spouse, often must obtain a divorce and a restraining order. However, I suspect that an innocent party, who was deceived by her ex-spouse, would not be excommunicated if she were to obtain a divorce at the insistence of her attorney. Otherwise, it is true that divorced Catholics cannot receive Holy Communion.