I'm a southern MIDWESTERNER myself, which makes for divided loyalties between north and south. My grandparents, though, were staunch SOUTHERN midwesterners who were very proud of their Confederate parents and grandparents. But I took the side of the North in a debate with them, saying I thought Lincoln was a great man and that it was good that the North won the Civil War because I felt God wanted us to be a united nation, not a separate one, in order to meet the challenges of the 20th century. I was taking the long view...
However, while I was spouting off, my grandparents gave me the most dumbfounded look. After I finished, my grandmother said "Well our better relatives are Confederate!" My grandfather grimaced but made no comment. Instead he took up the "Bates County History" and began reading the story of the illustrious Mayfield sisters who were Confederate gun runners, guerilla fighters, and spies. They were captured and put in a Confederate women's prison in my city, but they escaped by taking the door off the hinges and tiptoeing past a sleepy guard. They made it back to their home county and carried on with the war until the end. He ended this reading on the passage "and the Mayfields from the oldest grayhair to the youngest infant were loyal to the Cause all their lives. The Mayfield sisters were a bright shining example of glorious Confederate womanhood..." With that he snapped the book shut and slammed in on the coffee table, and said--"let that be a lesson to you!!"
So thereafter I kept my Northern sympathies to myself.